Finding truth in ‘Quit Like a Woman’
In her wonderful book Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol, Holly Whittaker writes:
‘Just like that, I am done with alcohol, and I’m not sad, or ashamed, or deprived, or any of the things people are supposed to feel when they stop drinking. I am proud. Happy. Giddy, even. I never have to drink again, and life is – quite suddenly – filled with possibility.’ (pg. 73)
Reading this, I felt like it had plucked out of my very own mind. This explains exactly how I feel about not drinking.
I feel proud for challenging myself to re-evaluate my life and be daring enough to admit that alcohol wasn’t a solution to my problems: it was the cause.
I feel happy because I know that I am back in control of my life and I am watching it blossom a little more each day.
I feel giddy because I am falling back in love with so many things, including writing.
Life feels filled with possibility because IT IS. This isn’t always easy to see when your too drunk to think about the future, or too hungover to care.
Ultimately, I feel free: free from the painfully heavy constraints I put myself in when I let my life revolve around drinking. Knowing that drinking is a choice and not an obligation, as I too often believed, is wonderful. (See my post Discovering that Not Drinking is an Option – Always)
I write these things because I truly feel and mean them, but I don’t want to negate from the challenges that becoming a non-drinker entail. Choosing to not indulge in a substance that society is drowned in can often make you feel like you’re wading up stream, against the current of all common ideology. If you ever feel like that, just know that you’re not alone. I’m wading right beside you.
It won’t always be easy, but it will be worth it.